L o v e  y o u r s e l f.

I have seen so much shaming on social media lately. Women shaming women, and men shaming women. It makes me sick. What it comes down to is this.. if you follow someone that makes you feel less than the truth of who you are, unfollow them. Don’t shame them. Doing so asks you to stoop to a lower level. None of us can rise if we are constantly shaming each other. Instagram has the good and the bad. It’s a marketing tool for brands, and allows people to earn income by advertising products. I’ve been able to earn a few extra dollars this way. What a blessing that has been, allowing me to stay at home and be with my baby.  Sometimes you will find a good deal worth swiping for, and sometimes it might be ridiculously out of your reach. Ultimately when we all reach the lowest common denominator, we find one thing that we all share. To love and to be loved PERIOD.

The bottom line is family and connection. When my entire life came crumbling down, I wasn’t scanning for swipes or taps. I was rallying around my family and friends looking for love and support. We are all REAL people with REAL feelings. With so much craziness going on in this world, us women need to unite!

So, love yourself. Dig deep and figure out why you feel the way you feel. Talk about it. Seek Help. Do what makes you genuinely happy. Unfollow accounts that make you feel bad. If my posts don’t inspire you please unfollow me.  Don’t let yourself be validated or invalidated by an Instagram post.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not here trying to proclaim that I’m the best at loving myself. Trust me, I have my moments.. but it’s something I really try to work at! I go to therapy, read self-help books, surround myself with boss babes and positive uplifting people.

Ultimately my whole point is this … LOVE YOURSELF!! don’t EVER let ANYONE depict your self-worth. We are all valuable and worthy and we each have something beautiful to offer to this world. No matter your shape, size, hair color, Income, failures or successes let’s stand together and work on becoming the best versions of ourselves.

Cleaning out my social media closet

Lately, I have seen so much criticism in this crazy social media world. What happens when we look at social media is we instantly disconnect from reality and enter into a distorted, curated, perfected idea of what everyone else lives look like. That’s when the comparison is born. The insecurity, the judgment, the stories we tell ourselves about those we follow. It’s natural to do this but I don’t think it has to be this way, I think if we can just be a little more conscious of what we are thinking while browsing we can realize that there is an actual person with feelings behind that picture, and…. would I say to their face what I’m thinking in my head? till you have walked in someone else’s shoes and know exactly what they are going through it’s not your place to shed judgment. If I have learned anything through my life… it’s that. We are all fighting our own battles, big or small. There’s just not room for the judgment. Let’s try to find the compassion in all situations because you NEVER know how you would actually react in a situation till you are handed those cards.

I have realized that I have been unhappy for too long. I am ready to live my best life and just do what feels right in the moment. As I am still picking up the pieces of my life, I’m trying to infuse each piece with love and happiness. I cant say that I am perfect at this. Of course, I have my moments of utter chaos, sadness, and heartache. but I think the most important part is to remember I’m doing my best…. you are doing your best, we are living and trying and taking each day one at a time. That’s all we have to do and that’s good enough.

I have been getting rid of so many of my old clothes, and I was so excited to find Evereve as I am rebuilding and refreshing my closet. I went to their City Creek location was amazed at how the whole store is geared for all mommas alike. They have snacks and a play area for your kids. They help you put outfits together and they sell all my favorite brands.

Just like I am refreshing my closet I am also trying to refresh my mind as I am on social media. Remembering to be happy for the people I follow, instead of being jealous or passing judgment. We are all in this together trying to survive and live our best lives. Let not forget that. So much love to you all!

woman’s day

It was recently international women’s day and it’s had me thinking about all the amazing women in my life and what makes them amazing. I really feel so blessed to be surrounded by incredible powerful women number one being my mother. I look at her life and how she got to the place she is, she has foraged through some serious trials and made it out not only alive but flourishing. She has so gracefully become the most intuitive and powerful woman I have ever known. I look at her example and think so much about how I need to be that for Poppy, this world is only getting crazier and I think as women we need to stand together and rise. We are the most powerful beings and the future is in our hands ” If you want to change the world, go home and love your children” We are literally raising the next generation. Quite frankly we all go through shit, but it’s how we rise from that dark place and show up in the world continuing to show love and strength that makes us stronger and even more powerful. I am so proud to be a woman, I don’t always get everything right but it’s the continual process of bettering yourself that matters. Sending so much love to all you amazing woman out there.

on a lighter note, I am LOVING this new ruffle trend. I fell head over heels for this tunic the second I spotted it I knew it had to be mine! I have a feeling It’s going to be on major rotation in my closet this summer. I hope you are all enjoying this amazing weather! we have been outside just soaking up the sun. Spring is so close I can almost taste it!!